You Care Too Much: Free Yourself From Social Anxiety by Carl VernonThe insecurity, worry, self-doubt and social anxiety that come with caring too much about what people think can be overwhelming. Does this mean you should go and live a solitary life in the hills, away from people and the BS that comes with them? No. There is a better way.
From bestselling author Carl Vernon, You Care Too Much is a no-holds-barred wake-up call about what social anxiety really is, how it affects you, and what you can do about it. It will teach you to bring out your new ‘can’t care’ mentality, turning your anxiety and self-doubt into confidence and self-control.
• Discover why you care too much – and why it’s doing you no good.
• Ditch your insecurity and self-consciousness and be yourself.
• Control your need for approval from others.
• Cut out the anxiety, worry and self-doubt others cause you.
• Learn how to spot and deal with toxic people – so you can stop them from walking all over you.
It’s time to find freedom by getting the tools and answers you need to care a lot less about what people think.
We must stop caring too much for those who care too little for us
Obviously, this world could benefit greatly from more kindness and compassion, because frankly, we live in pretty egocentric times. Nice people bring so much light into the dark places of this world, helping to elevate the vibration of the planet. However, sometimes kindness and care can be taken to the opposite end of the spectrum, where it becomes almost self-destructive rather than helpful. You should care about others, of course, but not when it comes at the expense of your own well-being and happiness. People pleasing behavior begins in childhood, when parents praise a child for obeying them but discourage him or her from asserting themselves, according to Jay Earley, author of Finding Your Life Purpose. Otherwise, they will be shunned and scolded for realizing their own needs have not been met by blindly following others orders. So, because of this learned behavior, you probably go along with the popular opinion in order to please others and not cause any rifts.
Do you worry too much what other people think of you? Are you constantly seeking affirmation and approval? Do you put others first at the expense of yourself? Seeking approval from others in our personal and business lives is not unusual. But in a world where we live so much of our lives online, the approval of others is more and more relevant.
People don’t think about you as much as you think they do. When you worry about what other people think of you, you start to let it take away your individuality, and you think you should conform in some way. Everyone cares what others think about them.
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Know You’re Your Harshest Critic
When it comes to how to have healthy self-esteem , it is a lifelong pursuit that involves collecting emotional data from the world around you to create a balanced view of yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes it's possible to get a little bit bogged down in one aspect of developing self-esteem: other people's opinions. - That being said what lies below is a collection of behaviors I need to stop doing immediately.
It's very human to want to be liked. Isolation is dangerous for our mental health. But if you betray yourself to get people to like you, that causes problems that are at least as bad if not worse. I'll explain why in a moment, but first let's look at some signs that you worry too much what others think about you. You do things you don't want to do and you resent it. You no longer or never did really know what you want.